I see a lot of bad a$$ women around me doing amazing things in their businesses and lives, and I am totally inspired by them. And if I’m being honest, sometimes I get a little wrapped up in comparison and wonder, “Should I be doing more?” At the risk of sounding arrogant, I do believe that I can do anything I set my mind to. If I wanted to grow our business, I could. If I wanted to start another business, I totally could. If I wanted to go out and earn a bunch of money, I know I could do that too.
But here’s the thing. Right now, if I sit and dig deep into what my gut is telling me is the right thing, then none of that other stuff matters. What matters, is me, being a mom to Holtan, and to this new little bean about to enter the world. That’s my priority, and that’s good enough for me right now.
Sometimes I think “being a mom” doesn’t feel like enough, and I think some of that stems from those of that are doing it. I hear moms say all the time “I’m just a stay at home mom.” or “I don’t have a job.” like it’s a bad thing. In fact, I’ve had many conversations with moms lately that they feel pressures to be doing more than “just being a mom.” I think this could bring up a lot of feelings on both sides of the coin, but truth is, there are no sides. We are all women, some of us with babies, some of us with jobs, some of us with businesses, some of us with all of that, some of us with none of that. It doesn’t matter. We are all just doing what we need to do live the life we want and be happy.
I read an article about how to be happier in life, and one of the points was to be okay with the mediocre. That struck a chord with me. I don’t want fancy right now. I don’t want things, and trips, and cars, and a big house. I just want time. Time with Dave and Holtan, time to enjoy this new little one, time to figure out life with 2 kids in the house.
I know I have the rest of my life to do BIG things. Start that business, grow our business, take big leaps, learn lots more stuff, make lots of money, go on fancy trips, etc. Or maybe I don’t have the rest of my life, but when I think about if it all went away today, what would I want to be remembered for? It would be that I spent quality time with the people I loved the most. Right now, my BIG thing is my family. In fact they’re my only things. And that is good enough for me.